Tag Archives: danger

Influence vs. Control

By caryschmidt | June 3, 2010

Sometimes we get mixed up in ministry. We forget that our responsibility is not control it is influence. God never gave us control of people, their lifestyles, or their choices. He created free will, and gives each individual responsibility for their choices. I fear, out of good intentions, some spiritual leaders cross the line and [...]

Posted in leadership | Also tagged biblical living, counseling, leadership, local church, ministry | 3 Comments

To TV or Not To TV?

By caryschmidt | March 29, 2010

To TV or not to TV? Many Christians wrestle with this question. Many choose to not have a TV at all. Others choose to have limited TV and tight controls. Yet others open the floodgates completely. Regardless of where you are on the TV decision, this experience was too powerful not to share.
For several years we’ve [...]

Posted in family, media & tech | Also tagged biblical living, family, media & tech, technology | 6 Comments

Before You Criticize Your Pastor…

By caryschmidt | March 15, 2010

Ever noticed that some people relish the criticism of pastors? Like kids and candy—they addict themselves even though it’s rotting something in them. While choosing voluntarily to stay under his leadership, they commit themselves to finding and exploiting every possible imperfection. I’ve never understood this thinking. Selecting a pastor, only to proceed to condemn the [...]

Posted in christian life | Also tagged biblical living, church staff, leadership, local church, ministry, satanic, team | 8 Comments

New Data about Kids and Media

By caryschmidt | January 24, 2010

Several days ago the LA Times reported on a Kaiser Family Foundation study that showed kids are now averaging 53 hours per week in digital media, including TV, video games, cell phone, computer, etc. This does not include when kids are multitasking—perhaps using their phone and watching TV at the same time. When factoring those [...]

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Defeating the Media Monster-Part 2

By Cary Schmidt | September 8, 2009

Media will eat your family alive unless you tell it not to!

In part one we uncovered five challenges that modern media brings into our lives and homes. To beat the challenges, tame this monster, and prepare your children to have discernment and wisdom, may I make the following suggestions:
1. Build healthy relationships committed to purity [...]

Posted in family, media & tech | Also tagged biblical living, family, media & tech, parenting, social networking, student ministry, technology | 1 Comment

Defeating the Media Monster—Part 1

By Cary Schmidt | September 4, 2009

Media will eat your family alive, unless you tell it not to!

I have a deep inner aversion to living things that crawl, creep, fly, or slither around and find their way into places they don’t belong. They bother me. They creep me out. I just want them dead as quickly as I can make it [...]

Posted in family, featured, media & tech | Also tagged biblical living, counseling, family, satanic, separation, social networking, student ministry, teen life, twitter | 1 Comment

New Research on Social Networking

By Cary Schmidt | August 19, 2009

Both TIME magazine and the San Francisco Chronicle recently reported on some dangers surfacing behind the many hours that teens are spending in social networking. Here are a few quotes from the San Francisco Chronicle article that relayed the results of a poll of 1,000 teens and 1,000 parents:
“From behind their bedroom doors, more than [...]

Posted in media & tech | Also tagged adolescence, biblical living, parenting, social networking, student ministry, technology, teen life, twitter | Leave a comment

The Right Spirit Toward Spiritual Leaders

By Cary Schmidt | July 11, 2009

There are two very different attitudes towards spiritual leaders. Some Christians seemingly never see anything good, and in fact have given themselves over to criticism and fault-finding. While other Christians opt to be prayerfully and joyfully supportive and encouraging toward leaders. Which position have you taken in life? Just a couple of quick thoughts to [...]

Posted in christian life, leadership | Also tagged church staff, leadership, local church, ministry, team | 2 Comments

The Top Ten Dating Mistakes Parents Make (Part 2)

By caryschmidt | January 11, 2009

How Parents Let Their Kids Go Too Far, Too Fast, Too Soon

This is part two in a series of articles that flow from years of dealing with situations that arose out of well-meaning but short-sighted parental decisions. We all have blind spots, so these things are shared with a spirit of sincerity and humility [...]

Posted in family, student ministry | Also tagged adolescence, family, parenting, student ministry, teen life | 1 Comment

The Top Ten Dating Mistakes Parents Make (Part 1)

By caryschmidt | January 7, 2009

How Parents Let Their Kids Go Too Far, Too Fast, Too Soon

This is the first in a series of three articles.
Over the years, the Lord has allowed me the privilege to serve families and students in their journey together. Hundreds of teens have graduated from our student ministry, and the vast majority of them are [...]

Posted in family, student ministry | Also tagged adolescence, counseling, dating, family, parenting, student ministry, teen life | 4 Comments

Book Review-What’s On Your Mind

By caryschmidt | January 1, 2009

Discover the Power of Biblical Thinking
A New Book by Dr. John Goestch

Do you desire to grow in your understanding of how your brain assimilates information, and how God’s Word can transform your thinking and renew your mind? The pages of this book are a MUST READ for every Christian who is desiring to win [...]

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Understanding Hidden Dangers Part 4

By Cary Schmidt | April 4, 2007

A Four Part Series for Discerning Parents
In this final segment, I want to touch on an area that I would call “passive behavioral dangers.” Perhaps these things are more warning signs of deeper dangers than dangers themselves, but either way, these things deserve our parental awareness and attention.
These dangers or warning signs are harder [...]

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Understanding Hidden Dangers Part 3

By Cary Schmidt | January 4, 2007

A Four Part Series of Articles for Discerning Parents
Through our last two articles we have been seeking to see what others do not or choose not to see. We’re asking the Lord to give us spiritual discernment and to enlighten the eyes of our understanding with regards to the hidden dangers our teenagers face. [...]

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Understanding Hidden Dangers Part 2

By Cary Schmidt | November 20, 2006

A Four Part Series of Articles for Discerning Parents
In last months article we began a four-part series on the hidden dangers that Satan uses to drive a wedge between a teenager’s heart and spiritual things. These are the things that sometimes appear innocent or faddish on the surface, but in reality they are “back-doors” [...]

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Understanding Hidden Dangers Part 1

By Cary Schmidt | October 31, 2006

A Four Part Series of Articles for Discerning Parents
God’s Word says in Job 6:30, “Is there iniquity in my tongue? cannot my taste discern perverse things?” In this passage Job is defending the purity of his heart and he references discernment in the form of a word picture. He compares his ability to [...]